You’ve lost a baby and can’t imagine living the rest of your life with this pain. It feels like everyone else’s life keeps going while yours is crashing down around you. You question if you will ever feel at peace again.
It’s agonizing to face each new day and you’re looking for a therapist who truly gets it to help you pick up the pieces.
Life wasn’t always this confusing. If you faced challenges you were able to lean on friends and family for support and you had faith that everything would work out in the end.
Losing your child changed everything.
Before that day, it wasn’t like you to feel so hopeless. Now you can’t find hope in anything. You can’t make sense of this loss- parents shouldn’t have to live without their children, right? Yet here you are, living your worst nightmare.
You used to be able to stay positive in difficult situations. But hell, you lost a child- there is no silver lining in that. There is no “at least”.
You feel isolated from friends and family. They used to be your rock. You believed they could help you through anything. Yet, nobody really understands. Some try to comfort you but it ends up hurting more. Others avoid bringing up your baby altogether, which hurts even worse.
Somewhere along the way, you started to isolate yourself. You pulled back and thought you could start to heal on your own. Yet, you feel stuck and unsure of how to pick up the pieces of your shattered life. You’ve started to wonder if healing from this is even possible.
Now you fear that you’ll suffer the rest of your life and never be able to find joy again.
You know nobody’s life is perfect- but this is horrific. You’d never thought you’d experience something so painful. You realized bad things happened but never really thought it would happen to you.
You never thought you’d be in this situation. When you found out you were pregnant you thought you’d be bringing home a baby and you’d get to watch them grow up. You never predicted that you’d lose this child.
Now you realize horrible things can happen to anybody. You’re terrified of losing another child and of other bad things happening. You’re no longer comforted by statistics that say it’s unlikely to happen again.
You had no idea you could feel so hopeless about your future.
When you seek Pregnancy and Infant Loss Counseling with Evolve Counseling, LLC you will:
- Discover what healing after child loss means to you
- Learn ways to experience joy again, while still being sad your baby is not here.
- Create ways to honor and remember your baby so you can bring them with you while you move forward.
- Find hope for the future without feeling guilty
The child loss grief counseling process is intended to help you feel understood so you can explore your loss and unique grief journey. Together you and I will find navigate all the crap that comes with living after the loss of a child.
You and I will meet either weekly or biweekly for 45, 60, or 90 minutes and you will find hope that you can to face the world again.
Here’s what to expect.
You will be able to complete intake paperwork through the online Client Portal so less time will be spent on this during the initial session.
At the initial session, we will review the paperwork and policies. After that, you will get to share the story of your baby and their loss. Feel free to bring any pictures or mementos that you would like to share- but you don’t have to, I know these are personal and sacred.
Once you share your story, we will talk about stuck points and identify any goals for our work together.
We will then decide the frequency and length of sessions. I offer 45-minute, 60-minute, and 90-minute sessions.
During a typical session, we’ll start by checking in about significant things that have happened since we last met and then begin exploring your loss, identifying your grief process, and working towards your goals.
The therapeutic relationship is essential to the healing process. The first several sessions are focused on establishing a trusting relationship.
As people progress through their journey we will reduce session frequency until it you feel ready to stop the sessions. I always let clients know that they can still reach out and come back in as things arise in the future.
More About Evolve Counseling, LLC
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Licensed Addictions Counselor, and fellow bereaved mother, I help you find hope again through integrative psychotherapy interventions.
At Evolve Counseling, LLC I help grieving mothers go from feeling like their living in hell to feeling like they can face the world again.
When I work with bereaved mothers I use a variety of interventions, including mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, person-centered, to help them find ways to integrate this devastating loss and find a new normal where they can experience joy again.
I am passionate about helping grieving mothers find ways to continue loving and honoring their child(ren) even though they are no longer here.
Evolve Counseling, LLC was started 4 years after my first child was stillborn. After walking through my own healing journey I decided to use my clinical experience as a professional counselor and my personal experience as a bereaved mother to support others on this difficult journey. During my journey, I often felt misunderstood and alone. While everyone’s experience is unique, many find it helpful to talk to someone who’s walked this path.
You can read more about my training and specialties here.
Who Benefits From Pregnancy and Infant Loss Grief Counseling?
Loss is loss and all of it sucks. Infant and pregnancy loss grief counseling is suited for mother’s who have lost a baby, no matter the age, gestation, or circumstances.
Pregnancy and Infant loss grief counseling helps you feel joy again without feeling like a bad mother. You will benefit from infant and pregnancy loss counseling if:
- Your baby was stillborn
- You lost a baby due to a miscarriage or early pregnancy loss
- You made the agonizing decision to end a wanted pregnancy
- Your baby died during or after birth
- You can’t imagine living life with this pain.
- You feel guilty for wanting to feel better
- You fear the world will forget your baby
- You feel alone and misunderstood
- You don’t want to live without your baby, yet don’t want to die.
There are times you might not be ready for infant and pregnancy loss counseling. These included:
- You are active suicidal ideation
- You have safety concerns and need access to 24-hour care
If you are experiencing these issues, I recommend calling the Colorado Crisis Services at
1-844-493-8255 or by visiting their website at http://www.ColoradoCrisisServices.org
What Does Pregnancy and Infant Loss Grief Counseling Cost?
45-minute session- $150
60-minute session- $190
90-minute session- $225
*Initial sessions are usually 60-minutes.
I accept cash, check, credit cards, and HSA cards. I am in-network with Cigna insurance. I can also accept payment from Walk With Me Non-Profit and Kaiser if a referral is made. If you would like to utilize a different insurance plan, you may be eligible for Out-Of-Network benefits, meaning you may be able to get reimbursed either partially or in full from your insurance plan. In this case, I will provide you with a superbill to submit directly to your insurance company.
Where and When Can I Schedule Pregnancy and Infant Loss Grief Counseling?
My office is located off of I-25 and Dry Creek. The address is 88 Inverness Circle East, Building H #105. Appointments are available during the following times:
- Monday 10am-5pm
- Tuesdays 9am-8pm
- Wednesday 4:30pm-8:30pm
- Thursday 8:30am-7pm
Your Next Steps
It is possible to keep moving forward while still grieving your child. You can find hope for the future while also carrying the pain of losing your baby. Right now this sounds impossible, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start taking the necessary steps to heal.
You will be able to experience joy again without being overwhelmed with guilt. You’ll be able to face the world again. Ultimately, you’ll find a way to pick up the pieces and find a new normal. You’ll see that healing is possible and it doesn’t mean “getting over” the loss of your baby.
To schedule an appointment for Infant and Pregnancy Loss Counseling call 720-506-1568 or send me a message through the contact form.
More About The Child Loss Journey
All child loss sucks.
Loss is crippling, whether it be due to a miscarriage, terminal illness, genetic conditions, stillbirth, or making a difficult decision to end a much-wanted pregnancy.
I wish you weren’t visiting this page. The death of a child shakes us to our core. No parent should have to live without their child. It’s just not fair and nothing makes this devastating loss okay. NOTHING.
I can, however, say that although the pain of child loss never really goes away, it changes over time.
You start to have more good moments than bad, and with that may come intense feelings of guilt. Through our sessions, you will see that it is possible to feel joy without feeling like a bad mother.
The death of a child is unlike any other loss we may experience. Leaving us unsure how to move forward and at times making us feel “crazy”. Please know that you are not alone.
Common experiences after pregnancy loss or infant loss are:
- intense sadness and crying
- replaying each moment in your head
- struggles with spirituality
- difficulty getting up each morning
- wanting to be with your child
- preoccupation with death
- thoughts of suicide
- sleep disturbances
- feelings of guilt
- overwhelming anxiety that something horrible will happen again
- fear others will forget your child
- mixed feelings if you start having some better days
- anger at other people’s healthy pregnancies
- feeling misunderstood by family and friends
- intense longing for your child
- fighting with loved ones
- feelings of anger and irritability
- shock
Although I can not give you the one thing you want most, your child back. Our sessions will provide you with a safe, compassionate space to talk about your child and explore things that come up as you work to heal and find a new normal.
For more information about how child loss is different from other types of losses check out my blog article about this here.